This past Sunday I read an article in the New York Times about the growing number of people making life lists - a sort of "things to do before you die" list - and it got me motivated to start my own list. It seemed like it could be a good way to provide a dose of motivation and accountability - both things I feel the need for right now.
I used to be someone with a fairly clear plan and many concrete goals. I liked the sense of certainty (even if somewhat misguided and false) of feeling like I knew where the road was taking me (my post on how I read books further elaborates on these tendencies). Since having Q, I've kind of fallen off the wagon of goal setting, so I thought that sitting down to write a life list would be an interesting exercise. I don't think this is a panacea for my desire to find a bigger role in the world, but I do think it might be an interesting way to keep me moving forward towards some goals, and hopefully that can be part of the process of solving the bigger puzzle.
Some of my goals are admittedly rather shallow, hopefully most are not. Some goals are considerably more achievable than others. They are in no particular order as yet. I've tried to be specific where possible (and being quote girl, sometimes I had a bonus quote to tag on as well). For some things I still only have a general idea without specifics, but I included these goals even if still in the formative stage and trust that I'll be able to refine it; I'm figuring that by putting it out there it's like clay that I can work with and shape. I think I'm going to keep this as a running list on my blog in an effort to feel some public accountability.
Focus on the things I can control. (I'm not religious, but the quote that always comes up for me on this one is "Grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference").
Run a sub-3:45 marathon.
Go to cooking school in France or Italy.
Live in France, Australia, Italy, UK for at least a month each.
Learn to speak a foreign language fluently.
Get involved in a political campaign
Get deeply involved (with time and money) in a cause or issue to make the world a better place. ("Be the change you want to see in the world.")
Learn to sing (somewhat) in tune.
Learn to play a musical instrument
Bike across the US
Raise a happy, well-adjusted, compassionate child
Write a book.
Publish a book.
Write a letter to the editor of the NYT (that gets published)
Learn to ski well enough to get down any run safely (and happily)
Create art (paint/photograph/etc) good enough that I want to hang it in my home
Build/design a house from the ground up
Live in San Francisco again
Start a business or organization.
Create a retreat/commune/gathering venue for friends and family
Go on a silent meditation retreat.
Study yoga in India